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Resistant to Change: Why does the living room always NEED to be green?


I like change; I do. I crave change, but just cannot seem to manage it. Something as seemingly simple as making changes in the house are almost impossible for me. Hubby and I have been absolutely hooked on HGTV lately. (Very dangerous and time consuming pass-time)

We have been watching the designers on the show make-over rooms and have continually commented on how much we like that blue/grey color that is so often used to make a room light and modern. Finally (since we haven’t painted or done anything in our townhouse since we purchased it a year ago)–(oh ya, and it is a fixer-upper) we decided that we wanted to give that blue-grey color a try. It looks lovely on the television.

I spent several hours, without exaggerating, hours in Lowe’s looking at and picking out paint. I was having a terrible time trying to find the right shade (like the one on TV), and kept gravitating back toward a dark green. Why dark green? Because that is ALWAYS the color I paint our living room! Every kitchen is red, every living room is dark green, and master bedroom is brown! No-matter how much I try to get myself to pick another color I always wind up going and putting the same thing on the walls. I can’t seem to change it….so yes, right now (although, only half done) my kitchen is red, and you guessed it…look at the picture my living and foyer is (drum roll please) DARK GREEN.

So how the hell did that happen? I was at Lowe’s. I picked out the blue. I even painted part of the wall with the color I’d picked, and then I hated it and repainted the walls green. I love my green; I can’t get away from my green–but I really really did want a change!

I am now contemplating what color to put in the dining room/office space because I’ve already am resolved to the fact the master bedroom is going to be brown. This time I am not even bothering to spend all day at Lowe’s trying to trick myself into thinking I would actually pick something else. I just don’t know what I am going to do with this gallon of blue/grey color I have here!

Anyone else have difficulty making changes even when they desperately need and crave a change??

Jeannie Davide-Rivera

Jeannie is an award-winning author, the Answers.com Autism Category Expert, contributes to Autism Parenting Magazine, and the Thinking Person's Guide to Autism. She lives in New York with her husband and four sons, on the autism spectrum.