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Aspie Teen is my Hero

For all of those who think that those of us with Asperger’s have no empathy:

Did I tell you the story of what happened on the day I gave birth to the baby?

For those of you who do not know, I recently (on Sept 5, 2013) gave birth to our fourth son. Early that morning, about 3:30 a.m., I called my mother to tell her that I was having contractions. She needed to come over to watch the boys while Hubby and I went to the hospital. She clearly told me that she was “packing a bag” and to call her and let her know when Hubby would be on his way. He picked her up, and we headed out.

To make this very long story shorter, about a half hour after I delivered the baby, my mother was ready to go home! Yes—you are reading this correctly. I delivered and she wanted to know when Hubby was getting back so she could go home! Apparently she had no intention of staying overnight at our house to watch the boys and figured her work was done the minute I delivered. Actually, she began whining about half hour before delivery, but that is a whole other story!

Hubby had to run home that evening and bring all the boys to the hospital with him so he could bring my mother home! He also was unable to spend the night with me in the hospital with our newborn. To make matters worse, I had a separated pelvis and was still unable to walk unassisted.

I was panicking! I did not want to stay in the hospital alone, which his when Aspie Teen stepped in. He slept overnight (two nights) in the hospital curled up on a very uncomfortable chair/bed next to Mom. He stayed to help me; he stayed so I would not have to be alone!

Well, this has been a busy couple of months. In September I had a new baby, so Hubby took a few weeks off of work. Then, in October, my father passed away and we went up to NYC for two weeks (more time for Hubby off of work).

On September 1st, I was informed that my book received an award. The ceremony is in Miami on Nov. 23rd. Unfortunately, due to all the time Hubby had to take off of work, not to mention unexpected expenses; he cannot accompany me to Miami. We cannot take all the boys with us, it would take too long, and cost too much. I am quite upset too because I really wanted to share this with him. Flying off to receive an award by myself does not sound like a fun thing to do.

So Aspie Teen to the rescue—the Teen is going to accompany me to Miami (despite his fear of flying), and escort Mom to the awards ceremony!

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Jeannie Davide-Rivera

Jeannie is an award-winning author, the Answers.com Autism Category Expert, contributes to Autism Parenting Magazine, and the Thinking Person's Guide to Autism. She lives in New York with her husband and four sons, on the autism spectrum.

10 Comments:

  1. Sometimes it’s NTs who are the aspies and aspies who are the NT, you sometimes switch places. That is what I have always called it.

  2. Someone has clearly inherited his mother’s big heart!

  3. Sounds like you have a pretty outstanding son there, Aspies rock!!! And congratulations on the award!

  4. Aspie’s feel just the same if not more. Never underestimate the power of what is felt.

  5. What a sweetie! Good job, you raised him well 🙂

  6. AspieTeen sounds like an awesome kid. A quiet act of ‘stepping up’ in a challenging time is worth more than gold.

    • He drives me crazy sometimes, but he is sooo good! Right now, he is rocking and feeding his baby brother! He helps get all the kids out of the house in the morning, then does his school work (even though he is behind and struggles tremendously), and then will even grab the baby to let me get a break. He is truly a great kid! I’m blessed…I just really have to remind myself of that once in a while.

  7. you have yourself a stunning person in the making there. hats off to aspie teen for being there for his momma! i hope that fysh will be like that and understand his own momma’s fears one day.
    and a HUGE congrats on the award!

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